There is a lot going on—I mean a lot! At least once a day, I wish I could just press pause on everything! And although that would be amazing, it’s not how life works. Life is going to keep life-ing, whether we’re ready or not. Some of us are juggling multiple situations at once. So, how do we find time, even if it’s just 5 minutes, for some ME time?
I know you might hate to hear it, but it may be as simple as setting some boundaries. If you’re a mom, that might mean locking the door when you go to the bathroom. (This has saved my mom friends.)
One of my boundaries is putting my phone on DND when I need to recharge. “Me time” is now a non-negotiable part of my routine (and yes, I even have boundaries for myself, but that’s another topic). It wasn’t always this way. At a point in my life, "me time” didn’t exist. My time was tied up with many other things, some that I enjoyed, some things out of obligation or expectations, but I noticed they were draining my energy without replenishing it.
For example, I love being out and socializing, but I only have so much time before my social battery is on E, and I need to sit in a corner and recharge (I didn’t know this back then either — #growth). I’m so glad I’m aware of this now because I can manage myself accordingly. Before realizing this, I would come off as moody and standoffish (thank God for new languages and understanding). When you know better, you do better!
It took me some time and a ton of BS to realize that life would force me to sit if I didn’t slow down and check in with myself. It took getting real with myself and wanting to feel better mentally! That started with self-awareness and focusing on my mental health. I had to get real with what I was feeling, experiencing, living through, and going through. Mask off! I had to sit with all of me.
Another cliché quote I used to roll my eyes at was, “It’s ok to not be ok.” Because really? Was it? I didn’t have time to deal with these emotions, problems, feelings, and realizations. I had expectations to live up to — from work, family, and friends. Everybody needed something from me. And to be clear, nobody explicitly put these demands on me (whether they truly thought and expected it was never said in most cases). I applied so much pressure on myself that I eventually lost myself trying to show up for everyone else. Whew, chile.
So, I had to get real about the work I needed to do.
I know we are all so busy with all that life requires of us, but I know you can find 5 minutes of time for yourself. Since it is Mental Health Awareness Month, let’s get into some 5-minute self-care tips, mental health edition.
1. Deep Breathing Exercises
This right here saved me so many times (I am going to write a whole post on it later). Practice deep breathing to reduce stress and promote relaxation. Try inhaling deeply through your nose for four seconds, holding your breath for four seconds, and exhaling slowly through your mouth for six seconds. Repeat this cycle a few times.
2. Mindfulness Meditation
Spend a few minutes focusing on the present moment. Sit comfortably, close your eyes, and pay attention to your breath. If your mind wanders, gently bring your focus back to your breathing. This can help reduce anxiety and improve concentration.
3. Stretching
Do a quick series of stretches to release physical tension. Stretch your arms, legs, neck, and back to improve circulation and reduce muscle tightness. This can also refresh your mind and improve your mood.
4. Gratitude Journaling
Write down three things you are grateful for. Focusing on positive aspects of your life can shift your mindset and improve your overall mood. This practice can also increase feelings of happiness and contentment. I created a 5-minute gratitude journal just for you! ( Snatch up yours is FREE.99)
5. Take a Short Walk
Step outside for a brief walk, even if it’s just around your home or office. Take the long way back inside from taking out the trash (find the time!). Physical movement and a change of scenery can boost your energy levels, improve your mood, and clear your mind.
Incorporating these quick self-care activities into your daily routine can provide immediate benefits to your mental health. They are simple, effective, and can be done almost anywhere, helping you maintain a healthy and balanced mind. I know it’s not this “simple” for everyone. It may look like seeking professional help. Whatever it may be, the first step is being self-aware that YOU ARE NOT OK. It’s ok to not be ok! (#myclicheasslife)
Take care of yourself — you deserve it.
XO| Moeluvin
